Friday, June 17, 2011

It's a Tough Job

This week I read an article and in the comments, things got particularly ugly.  People were arguing about the role of a stay-at-home-parent, and I was stunned by how many people felt that the partner at home should do not only 100% of the housework, but also 100% of the other partners personal needs (ie: their ironing, lunches, personal errands) because the other partner is supporting their ability to stay home and "take it easy" by working a full-time job.  Emphasis on FULL TIME JOB.  Apparently, 1954 never ended.  Also, apparently there in nothing harder in the entire universe than working approx. 40 hrs a week.  I feel terrible for my single friends who not only have to work a FULL TIME JOB, but also have to clothe, feed, and clean up after themselves, since apparently, it can't be done.  I don't remember ever going to work naked because no one else washed my clothes, but I must have had to.
Now I'm not debating that the stay-at-home spouse should do more than 50% of the housework at all, but I object to the idea that clocking a 9-5 day entitles someone to do nothing the remaining time at home.  Heck, I'd love to clock in and out at 9-5, but these kids have a pesky way of needing things outside regular business hours. 
Anyway, the whole conversation was absolutely startling, and I was surprised at how hateful people could be about this.  Really, raising children contributes nothing to the working partner and no monetary value is the same as worthless?  Being a SAHM mom is the same as a "kept" mistress?  How sad that we've "evolved" this far.  In our house, Daniel and I are a team and try to help each other out, isn't that the way it's supposed to work no matter what the working arrangement is?
Anyway, this morning I had to go to the bathroom.  I locked the door for some privacy, and the entire time I was in there, Sam banged the door and jiggled the handle.  Then she yelled "Hey, are you pooping or peeing in there?  Because pooping takes too long, and I need you!?"  Turns out, she was out of Capri Sun and wanted to know if she should throw the wrapper away.
Staying at home isn't as easy or glamorous at is appears. 
I rest my case.

1 comment:

Me said...

http://www.cnn.com/2011/OPINION/06/16/pearlman.fathers.day/index.html?hpt=hp_bn9
Thanks to Luann for posting this awesome article on FB. Good to know its not all hatred out there! So grateful to have a husband who "gets it," and yes, wakes up with Sam on the weekends!